I have a secret to tell you that will make your resolutions come true in one way or the other by taking one simple action. STOP DOING THINGS YOU HATE TO DO. Let me tell you how to make this happen. Start saying “NO” to anything you do not want to do. If you do not want to talk on the phone to someone, do not do it. If you are tired of cleaning the house, while your family members sit and watch you instead of helping you, then stop doing it. If you are invited out for drinks and you do not want to go, tell your friends “NO.” I can keep going, but you get the big picture. 

Each time you engage in activities you hate you sell yourself short of the good things in life. Typically, we do this to please other people. I have learned pleasing other people is a dead-end street. Do you know why? Because people pleasing causing frustration, resentment, and anger, and these are the lowest of the low energy frequencies. Low energy frequencies attract in bad experiences. It is dangerous to your health and well-being to do things you do not want to do continuously. Every now and again we all do things we do not want to do, but when people pleasing becomes a lifestyle you lose yourself and the good things you are entitled to. 

Think about this. I personally know people who have been coerced to go to work during this pandemic. Although they did not want to go because they were afraid, they went to please their employer. Many of these people contracted COVID-19, and many of these people landed in ICU for days and weeks and months, and some of them died. If they would have said “NO,” they would be healthy and alive. 

Please know that saying “NO” is not being selfish. Putting yourself first is the best action you can take to achieve a new you. And you do not need a new year to start doing this, but now is as good of a time as any. Oh, and one more thing, you do not owe anyone an explanation about saying “NO.” Be as choosy with your time as you are your food.