There is a Right and Wrong Way to Pray
Wrong Way to Pray: Begging/Not Confident
Right Way to Pray: Affirming/Confident
I used to beg God to help me. I used to cut deals with God. Didn’t work. Have you ever talked to God and said things like, “God, if you’ll send me some money, I swear I’ll never drink again.” Now, this is only a hypothetical example, but you get my drift.
Before I go any further, I want to prelude this conversation with an explanation. My intention is to help not offend. I fully understand many people garner magnificent benefits from going to church. If you’re a church goer, please know what I am about to say does not apply to everyone. I am writing this blog for those who confuse begging with praying. I also want to point out I use the words God, Universe, Divine, and Higher Power interchangeably.
I know people who are hopelessly devoted to going to church, and they pray, and they pray, and they pray, but still come up empty-handed. They are still sick. They are still broke. They are still unhappy. They are still stuck in toxic relationships. Nothing ever changes and their prayers seem to go unanswered. God does not play favorites, so why does this happen?
Here’s what I have learned.
Certain language doesn’t work when communicating with the Divine. Our language must match our thoughts, intentions, and actions. For instance, if you’re sick, and you beg God to help you, your thoughts, words, and actions are focused on desperation versus perfect health. When you say, “God, please help me. I am so sick,” you are affirming to the Divine that you are sick. Saying “I am so sick” affirms that’s what you are. So, if you don’t want to be sick, stop using that language.
When prayers appear to be ignored, people often get mad at God. I know I used to behave this way, but what I didn’t realize was my prayers were being answered. I received exactly what I had said I was, and this is still the case to this very day. However, today, I receive what I want, because I changed the way I spoke to the Divine.
Switch the language up when speaking to the Divine. Below are some hypothetical examples of sentences you might consider using when speaking to God.
Old Language:
"God, I'm so sick. Help me feel better, please. I will do anything to feel better."
New Language:
'God, with you as my silent partner, I know anything is possible. My intention is to feel good. I invite and welcome any Divine wisdom you have for me. In this moment, I affirm I am in perfect health."
Old Language:
"God, I am so broke. I can't pay my house payment and I'm scared to death. I promise if you'll send me the money to make my house payment, I'll never ask you for anything ever again."
New Language:
"God, I am a part of you. I know I am capable of creating miracles. Money flows and arrives on time. My intention is wealth, and I allow it. Today, I ask you to send me Divine wisdom and guidance that leads me to wealth and to my highest good."
Old Language:
"God, please make this man love me. I am so tired of being mistreated and cheated on. I cry myself to sleep each night. I want to be loved so very badly, and all I get is abuse. Please help me. Please, God, help me make this man love me. If you'll make him see the light, I will do good from here on out."
New Language:
"God, I only attract in people that serve my highest good. I trust that you'll connect me with loving, respectful, successful, happy, healthy people who love me. I am ready to receive love from my soul partner, and I trust you'll send that person to me. I am loved."
See where I am going with this? The old language represents a mindset of lack whereas the new language represents a confident mindset that expects abundance. Old language speaks to what we don’t want. The new language speaks to what we do want.
There’s more to this than language, though. Your thoughts and actions must be in sync with your words. If you ask the right way, you will receive. It’s the law. It’s going to happen. What you need to know is begging produces what you don’t want. When we ask for something, there’s always a gap in time before it appears. Don’t remain idle during this timeframe. In conjunction with the new language, take these steps:
- Do good for others.
- The law of giving and receiving is always in action. Keep it flowing. Do good, get back. Do good, get back. Give and receive equally.
- Envision yourself living in your perfect world.
- Spend a few minutes (at least) each day envisioning what your world will look like when your prayers are answered.
- Assume the feeling of already having what you want.
- If your prayers were already answered, what would you be doing? Go ahead and do something each day that you will do regularly when your prayers are answered. For example, when your soul mate arrives, where will their clothes go in your house? Clean out a space for that person.
- Avoid circumstances and people that make you feel poorly.
- Along with your prayers, it’s very important that you feel good. Have fun. Be extra kind and forgiving to yourself. Put yourself first.
- Say thank you for your answered prayers in advance.
- Each day, thank the Divine as if you already have what you want. Say something like this, “Thank you, God, for the abundance of wealth that continues to flow to me. Abundance is all I know, and it’s all I am ever going to know. Thank you!”
Speaking and thinking this way does not come natural for most people. It certainly didn’t for me, but when I realized this everything changed miraculously. I realized that if you’re willing to live in delusion, it won’t take long for the delusion to manifest into reality. Give it a shot. After all, if your way isn’t working, why not?
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